Ellenor Rigby

What consumes the thoughts of people?

Leisure time by most, is spent how? Being single or not, times of isolation and loneliness at some point or another challenges us all. I think men are less likely to admit this for ourselves than women. Yet the grey cloud that can accompany, is usually the same.  Different people manifest different feelings differently.

Commonly, people usually get with well-meaning friends or family. Usually this company does what it should do for the  emotionally wounded. Happily and carefully attempt to redirect the thoughts and attention towards a decidedly cheerful heart and mind . Unfortunately some, do things that tend to be selfish and sometimes very reckless.

They thoughtlessly get into relationships.  Perhaps we don’t think about it in those terms, perhaps we should. On a very crude level lets ponder;

I am lonely, I don’t want to be lonely. I see you. I like what I see. Hmmmm…Let me engage you and join your life to mine so I won’t be lonely anymore.

Not a lot of consideration in that attitude for that person or for the future that the two may ultimately make.

The things we richly prepare for, for good or for bad, is what we will get.

Who knows the subtleties of men or the complexities of women?
Yet many go to universities to get knowledge, certified by degrees of masters and doctorates to enhance their daily lives, but choose to practice life on someone with much lessor regard.
Getting into a relationship because one is lonely, rather because one is ready, lacks  simple judgement. Most wouldn’t practice medicine on someone before they’re ready… regardless of how sick a patient is.
Unfortunately, many have practiced life on others, totally unprepared and mis-guided, producing hurt luggage(baggage) in people’s lives.
Ellenor Rigby, apparently had more than her fair share.

Enter at your own risk: The Cloud pt 1

You in a relationship? Any Regrets? Do you question if you could have made a better choice? After seeing different articles related to  the final product of failed relationships, be it business,  Hollywood (one ward: kardashian),political, or in the case of much recent publicized  relationships of the United States  with  other nations with questionable motives, why go there in the first place?

I imagine afterward, when these relationships fail,  or is significantly troubled, the question has to be asked at some point, could I have avoided this or should I have seen this coming, or some variant  of the two.

Most relationships begin on a selfish and superficial level. Beginning with, what can  I get from this or what is in it for me, how are my interests served or in the case of most personal relationships, how could/does this person make me feel. It is from this point,  that  a determined, un-selfish diligence must be exercised to protect ourselves from all kinds of clear and present dangers. If proceeding into any relationship is decided, based solely or mostly on the belief  and view-point of, I can get my immediate fix for now and whatever happens, happens. This mistake is usually met with harsh consequences.

–  click on the link on the right of this page for part 2 under previously on Journey –>